What is Tantra? The Truth. (Part I) – Tantra Massage Ritual

I practice the beautiful art of Tantra Massage near Dublin, in Wicklow.

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The word ‘Tantra’ has garnered so many connotations over the years similar to a myth becoming mistaken as the truth.

Classical Tantra is an ancient philosophical system of personal liberation, freedom from past conditioning and the constraints of narrow minded thinking. Allowing our authentic self to shine through, free from labels society places on us in an effort to define and limit our lives.

Liberation of the mind, body and spirit to ‘be’ and enjoy the present moment. Free from materialistic wanting/desire. Clarity descends and also belief in oneself, we are all divine and we are all responsible for our own state of mind. There are many Tantric Texts and some are only now being translated from Sanskrit into English, oral traditions and Sutras similar to parables which are a guide or design for living a life of joy, love and peace for ourselves and others.

Our bodies harbour no shame and are to be celebrated and respected. The saying ‘my body is a temple’ comes from The Tantra yogic tradition whose roots are found in Hatha Yoga and Meditation- purification of the mind- from the shackles of negative thinking, an acceptance of reality, be it positive or negative in life. Emotions and thoughts are never static they come and go. We learn to find joy in the mundane and nature and above all, awareness.

Yoga and breathwork (pranayama) purify and condition the body, awareness of movement and breath (life force) and the body. Yoga movement can also be free form, Tandava is the original form of yoga of movement. Tantra is yoga of the mind

Modern day Mindfulness has been homogenized for western palates and appropriated from Tantric and Buddhist texts.

So where does Tantra Massage fit into the spectrum? What is Tantra Massage?

The link to fantastical mind blowing sex has no foundation in the ancient texts of Classical Tantra from the Indian Saiva tradition. Neo-Tantra conceived and made trendy by modern gurus such as Osho have exploited a tenuous link from dark rituals practiced by obscure Tantric lineages which died out centuries ago. Osho and others repackaged this to Western society as enlightenment through sexuality and sexual liberation.An illusion which has tarnished the beauty and pure heart of Tantra.

When a system is taken out of context and the foundations are tenuous, the structure  easily crumbles. And so by only experiencing Tantra in its fast food guise (Neo-Tantra), the richness of the feast, the feeling of deep contentment can never be so joyously attained.

The original tantra massage is a sacred ritual contained with the Siva Sutras; of a divine human being, opening himself to the pleasure of the senses.

To experience contentment our senses must be open or awakened. In authentic Classical Tantra which I practice; this beautiful awakening takes place when one reaches a deeply relaxed or meditative state. You are then fully grounded and ‘in the moment’.  Simple enlightenment or contentment, peace from within.

Pleasure encompassing all the senses, sweet incense, beauty enjoyed by the eye, warm, heart centred touch, soothing music, and the taste of bliss in whatever form that takes.

Genuine healing Tantra massage techniques originate from the Taoist branch of Tantra, Tantra found it’s new home in Tibet, flourishing within Buddhism and in parts of Asia when Islam banished Tantra from India. In Tantra Women and Men are of equal standing though some ancient lineages worshiped The Goddess. Ayurveda massage and medicine is said to stem from Tantra.

The Tao believe all that we need to heal the body is within. When we are healthy our mind and bodies are in balance, free from depression and ill heath, etc.

Genuine Taoist Tantra healing massage is rooted in the specialist organ massage Chi Nei Tsang and Karsai/lingam massage which promotes restoration of imbalance due to illness, stress or anxiety, igniting energy (mind, body, heart) and restoring balance when used with meditation and movement.

Karsai/lingam massage or for women yoni massage is also part of a healthy lifestyle which respects the full potential for pure pleasure simply stimulated by heart centred touch, the senses and the power of breathwork.

Our sexual organs contain our source of energy. Remember the sensation of falling in love? The high, the unstoppable energy that curses through your body. Living a passionate life, loving every moment of what you do brings that same power. Meditation, yoga and massage also keep this beautiful energy flowing. If those energies lay dormant then, depression and illness can take hold

Tantra believes that there is a fusion of mind, heart and physical body. They should work in harmony rather than being pulled in different directions. Tantra Massage is also part of a spiritual life’s journey to be at one with our own body plus open to finding and exploring true intimacy with another. To enjoy the pleasure principle incorporating trust and honesty, intrinsic to a joyful life.

A Tantra Massage session reminds the soul of the infinite pleasures of life and ecstatic potential stored within all our bodies, just waiting to be ignited.

Please visit my website http://www.artoftranscendence-tantra.com for further information on an authentic Tantra Massage Session then call me 087 343 5081 to discuss if you think you would cherish the benefits.

To practice as a Classical Tantra Practitioner as I do takes many years of study; philosophy, psychology and anatomy together with meditation, mindfulness, yoga and/ or qi gong. It should never be categorized as just a massage or labeled an erotic massage. For it is truly a mind, body, soul experience an awakening to a higher plane of pleasure.

Wishing you Peace and Bliss.

Om Shanti from Tara

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I can’t breathe…….

Breath work and meditation are vital components of Tantra. We can all breathe but it’s the long breath we take at times in the garden, in the forest or by the sea. When the heady scent of nature lures us. Then we want to really breathe in the freshness or the aroma of spring grass, the heady sweetness of an old fashioned rose or exotic jasmine.

We then breathe for a reason. But what better reason then our health either physical, mental or spiritual. When there is a good reason or when we decide we really want something  or want to do something apathy melts away. We find the motivation, then there is no such thing as can’t, it’s only the mind that limits our beliefs. We can if we try.

Deep breathing activates our life force, our chi, our energy and without this element, the prime benefits of Tantra and of life are lost.

We often hear about a detox for the body, some people abstain from alcohol to detox their liver. Others detox by cutting out certain food in an effort to cleanse their digestive system.

But what if we could detox our minds everyday, let go of stress, anxiety, anger and other forms of negative energy.

Deep breathing not only clears the body of toxins and revitalizes all our organs. It de-clutters our mind from the negativity that holds us back in life. We are then free to be. Free to learn and grow in a positive way. Free to find that deep peace that is often stifled by oppression.

We should never be tarnished by others who seek to judge or inflict their narrow minds, their religion, their limited view of life on us if we are seeking knowledge that allows us to reach our full potential as a person, a lover and true friend.

Tantra breath work together with movement (Yoga or Qi Gong) enables us to free our minds from past conditioning, be at one with our body and promote our health and vitality in the most natural way.

When we are in optimum health mind, body and soul, we are ageless, we defy convention.

Open your mind and open your heart. Why sex and love really do have a place together.

I was so disappointed when I read this article https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2017/jan/28/sex-love-communicate-erotic-hormonal-closer-hug yet uplifted when I read the comments by so many people who felt moved enough to share their thoughts.

It appears likely that Olivia (from her her article) has rarely if ever shared a deep sensual connection to a partner or even the man she married, or had children with. Her sensual and emotional side seems stunted if she is even thinking of scenes from Japanese pornography, other men or what’s going on in her partner’s head during their past lovemaking. If her focus is on the way her partner is touching her, his scent, how he feels inside, the bliss of his arms around her then may be she would feel an even deeper sense of intimacy that a fully clothed hug could ever bring.

And if a man ever compared the feeling of orgasm to his football team’s standing in the league table then something tells me neither of them has stepped back to take a look at the bigger picture of what can be. This ‘ it is what it is’ mentality is closed minded to say the least.

Sex as in life is what you make it. True sexual chemistry and life enhancing compatibility is rare to find but worth waiting for instead of settling for a mate who ticks all the so called conventional boxes

Yes a man has a sex drive but so do women. Sadly for whatever reason some women have never experienced the bliss of wave after wave of joyful orgasm in that case then they have nothing to miss……and feel that sleep, work, children, cleaning, almost anything else becomes a priority. This often has little to do with their partner but a lack of personal sexual exploration. Everyone is responsible for their own orgasm.

Men and women who experience deeply satisfying orgasmic states like to replicate the feeling as often as possible…..if you love chocolate wouldn’t you find as many ways as possible to include it in your diet, morning, afternoon, or evening, hunger can strike at anytime of the day when you’re open to it.

Naturally you feel a deeper sense of connection to the person who is sharing these blissful moments in a chaotic life with you.

One thing that I agreed with was her line ‘erotic sex is about wanting something’. Well Tantric sex is about respect and giving unconditionally. When you change that mindset, your relationship changes. When you can feel and share the pleasure that you are giving and this applies to men and women, then warmth fills every pore of your being….that’s when closeness transcends the mundane, this is when making love becomes an extraordinary experience, that’s when the spirituality of a connection overrides the shallowness of lust, and the hollow feeling of perfunctory sex. And this isn’t only achieved through penetrative sex. Making love takes many forms.

And of course the hugs nurture that closeness but maybe if we discussed honestly what we all want from a relationship, then whether it’s just hugs in bed or something more, as long it’s a shared vision then nobody would be unhappily clinging to the edge of the bed for fear of misinterpreting an innocent gesture.

A wise man gave me this insight on a healthy relationship ‘A man needs sex to feel wanted and loved and a woman needs to feel loved to want sex.’ Cold shoulders and an impervious chasm of unspoken venom in the middle of the bed is the death knell in many relationships no matter how many shared interests and children there are outside the bedroom.

Men who are rejected often enough will find an outlet for their sexual desire. And women who don’t understand that write articles like Olivia rueing the day romantic love turned to dust and those who do gain a surety that making love can be so much more than a biological need.

P.S The last paragraph works both ways.

If you’d like to begin your journey into Tantra then please visit my website http://www.artoftranscendence-tantra.com

Om Shanti


Sensual Mindfulness


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Meditation and mindfulness are the new buzzwords.  New articles and books are published everyday on these matters as if it’s the new thing.

Like Tantra these practices are centuries old but now many people are becoming increasingly disillusioned  with the hamster wheel of life and the freedom we thought we had gained from the internet enslaves us even more through obsessive checking with what everyone else is doing with their lives or watching acts that used to be private. Some of us are beginning to lose our sense of peace when we are constantly engaged with media and gadgets.

The mind disengages with our senses when our eyes are focused on a screen, our bodies become numb when the mind is concentrating on visual images.

I like to call Tantra massage sensual mindfulness. During a Tantra session one disconnects from stress, anxiety,  what’s happening in our usual world and enters a meditative state through breath work.  Only conscious of the sensations of the moment. Any anxiety of past sexual experiences is let go freeing one to be fully present in the beauty and ecstasy of the moment.

Tantra enables us to truly feel every touch, every tingle as the positive energy and electricity rises bringing us to a heightened state of pleasure and sensuality.

Tantra can give you a new found respect for your body as it feeds the senses in every way instead of craving fast food laden with salt and sugar and creaminess it’s the pure taste of unprocessed food, sharp, savoury and natural sweetness that sates a hunger that’s not a condition of emotions.

If our self-respect returns then so does our respect for others and most importantly our partner. Tantra in it’s purest form is about wanting give bliss in every way and to nurture a rare intimacy with another or with ourselves.

Please visit my website http://www.goddessofsensualtouch.com or contact me 087 343 5081 to discuss.





Tantra – The Power of Respect

As the grey days of winter begin to envelope us and another year passes it’s often a time when our energy begins to dip, the sun warming our faces and giving us the feel good factor seems a distant memory. This is often a time when we take comfort in artificial warmth when the authentic fire could burn so brightly within us.

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Often one is drawn to Tantra through the sensual element and yes it’s a very important aspect. But all the elements have their place in a healthy life.

Respect for oneself and others is vital but often missing on a daily level. It’s about taking care, of how we treat ourselves, others, not only those we love, the food we eat and what we choose to drink and how much we drink.

Tantra massage and lifestyle raises the positive energy within ourselves and with that a new respect for ourselves and ultimately how we live. This filters through our relationships too. If we are experiencing bliss then we are filled with passion to share and give bliss to those we love. The meditation elements allow us to live life free from anxiety and lower stress levels enable us to enjoy life within contentment as striving to find happiness through material goods melts away as we realize bliss is what we can achieve from the power of of own bodies and the ability to share that state with another.

If you would like to explore Tantra further and how it can lead you to the path of of not just sensual mindfulness but can help you to overcome and let go of the past and habits which create a negative self image then you may contact me to discuss the beneficial properties 087 343 5081.

Tantra has the ability to fill your present and future with a new found respect for yourself  thus finding comfort in food via overeating, alcohol and other modern day addictions that lead to self loathing can be eradicated by nurturing and stimulating the power of positive energy through massage and meditation.

Positive energy has the power to transform how we feel about ourselves and simply put; if we feel good about ourselves then we are more aware of how our body feels and moves and what we choose to put in it and subject it to. The negative past can be let go and the blissful sunshine can be free to fill us with a warmth even through these dark winter days and nights.

The Orgasmic Woman

There is a myth that’s been circulating for eons……women have a lower sex drive than men…..research has has proven this to be categorically not the case. What I’ve discovered is women are just turned on in different ways….whereas just the visual aspect of any woman showing a bit of cleavage, a shapely leg or full red lips, take that further, then make it touch or a massage and many men will become aroused regardless whether it’s a random woman or someone they feel a connection with…obviously most men always don’t act on this arousal.

Woman are usually different. There normally has to be some kind of tangible connection for them to become turned on enough to act on the feeling even if the connection is tenuous. That’s why sensual massage services has never taken off for women, men have used these services for sexual relief for centuries.

Every woman is unique and her personal erogenous zones are too but what most women need to reach orgasm is a sense of calm and safety with a partner they trust completely. Someone who is there for them no matter how they look. Emotions are tied up with this and it’s a cycle that many woman need to break free from, the self persecution, I feel fat, I feel tired, I don’t look how I used to, I feel ugly I want sex to be perfect. I read an article the other day and it was so true. If we wait for the perfect time to make love it will never happen because it’s rare that life is ever perfect.

So accept your body the way it is and love it or change it out of respect for yourself and be positive that this is the first day of change.

One of the main philosophies within Tantra is respect. Respect for one’s own body and for that of your partner’s and wanting to give the person you love bliss.

Denying ourselves the pleasure of making love and orgasm is a terribly sad state, why would a woman want to deny herself warmth and touch and the sense of well-being that comes from being close to someone.

Sometimes we just need to step back and find the time, turn the phones off, send the children away to their friend’s house for the night, light some candles and just kiss and touch. But what if it’s hard to switch your mind off from worries, what if the touch feels awkward? Tantra techniques slow everything down, the meditative breathing relaxes you and enables you to feel this beautiful method of touching more intensely. The touch is not only concentrated on your genitals and breasts but let’s your whole body surrender to a blissful state. The Yoni (vaginal) massage when perfected by your partner can bring you to a powerful orgasmic state. And I promise you when you feel the beauty of this orgasm it will be very rare that you will want to find an excuse not to make love…..for why would you want to deny yourself the type of orgasms you always dreamed of….and making love the way you always thought it would be.

During a couples session you will both go on a journey to build a deeper connection between each other. The Tantric embrace ignites a unique bond, then the ancient massage techniques you learn to perform on each other can send you both to new heights of pleasure which is within every body you just need to use the key (Tantra) to unlock the orgasmic bliss with no need for anything else but each other.

You may go to my website to learn more or contact me http://www.goddessofsensualtouch.com

Wishing you peace and loveAphroditePearlsDraper


Tantric Goddess of Sensual Touch

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Tantric Massage
Are you looking for a haven of peace and tranquility in this frenetic world? I can offer you a blissful space where nothing matters but you and the way I touch you and ignite your senses.

The goal of Tantra is to turn you on to the world, to awaken your senses and bring passion to all aspects of your life.


The art of Tantra is like no other massage you’ve experienced. You may enjoy it for the sensual massage or if you wish to delve deeper into this ancient art with me then your erotic self can be enhanced. For ‘Tantra’ provides the key to our life force, our chi and enables you to be the man you know you are.

My Haven of Serenity is located 30 minutes south of Dublin near Wicklow and discretion is offered, this is our secret place. But I’m available to…

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Tantra – A Beautiful Alternative

Tantric Goddess of Sensual Touch

Tantra is and ancient healing art with powerful energies which can bring a new positive attitude to negative thoughts that may be holding you back in many area of your life. Doctors are all too quick to prescribe pills and psychotherapy when all we sometimes need is space and a little time to de-stress and find peace away from the phone, TV and noise.

Stress is one of the biggest ailments in our modern world it affects our well-being in so many ways. An inability to relax fully in the moment has a huge bearing in our sensual and sexual lives.

A Tantra massage can be the first step to dealing with premature ejaculation problems, a relaxed setting, intrinsic breathing techniques can give confidence to slow the act down which in turn allows the body to prolong the pleasure aspect before orgasm. The massage also alleviates the negative thought spiral…

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Tantra – A Beautiful Alternative

Tantra is an ancient healing art with powerful energies which can bring a new positive attitude to negative thoughts that may be holding you back in many areas of your life. Doctors are all too quick to prescribe pills and psychotherapy when all we sometimes need is space and a little time to de-stress and find peace away from the phone, TV and noise.

Stress is one of the biggest ailments in our modern world it affects our well-being in so many ways. An inability to relax fully in the moment has a huge bearing in our sensual and sexual lives.

A Tantra massage can be the first step to dealing with premature ejaculation problems, a relaxed setting, intrinsic breathing techniques can give confidence to slow the act down which in turn allows the body to prolong the pleasure aspect before orgasm. The massage also alleviates the negative thought spiral associated with this anxiety.

If you feel you have lost your libido due to a myriad of causes, major operations, stress of every day life, relationship and family pressures or you wish to reconnect with your sensual side allowing Tantra into your life can benefit you greatly.

If you and your partner have lost the magical element to your relationship or sexual relationship then Tantra can hold the key to a beautiful reconnection and rejuvenation in your relationship.

Please visit my website http://www.goddessofsensualtouch.com or call me 087 343 5081 to discuss how Tantra could enrich and change your life.

Namaste…..The Divine in me, honours the divine in you.



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Tantric Massage
Are you looking for a haven of peace and tranquility in this frenetic world? I can offer you a blissful space where nothing matters but you and the way I touch you and ignite your senses.

The goal of Tantra is to turn you on to the world, to awaken your senses and bring passion to all aspects of your life.


The art of Tantra is like no other massage you’ve experienced. You may enjoy it for the sensual massage or if you wish to delve deeper into this ancient art with me then your erotic self can be enhanced. For ‘Tantra’ provides the key to our life force, our chi and enables you to be the man you know you are.

My Haven of Serenity is located south of Dublin and discretion is offered

Tantra massage is a special gift. I’m the giver and you are the receiver. If you’re conscious of your breathing then you’re conscious of life. As a trained Tanta Goddess I know how sensual touch can bring a man to the heights of ecstasy. I will worship your body as it deserves. I’ll touch you in the most sensual way for a Tantric massage cannot be rushed, the world will melt away and all that matters is you and your sensual self.

Tantra massage will open your chakras and produce a feeling of well being and clarity of mind. The sensual journey builds yet comes in waves of pleasure often leading to a full body orgasm once you’ve learned the Tantric breathing method.  Your orgasm can be even more powerful when you learn to become aware of your rising, this comes with practice and exercising your PC muscles. When seminal fluid is redirected it can energize you rather than deplete you which means this is only the beginning of true ecstasy and not the end.

You may become aware your sensuality and experience the true ecstasy that your body is capable of including mastering control if you have ever experienced premature ejaculation, using breathing methods and muscle contraction can help dramatically.

You’ll begin with a warm shower, then we will breath as one as we enter the initial zone of relaxation through meditation

Slowly and sensually I’ll massage you from top to toe until you’re relaxed and ready to enter the state of true bliss through massage..

You must show respect to your Goddess and remember I am the giver, your task is purely to enjoy my touch.


There is no sexual intercourse between the giver and receiver. The magic in my hands is all you need to reach Nirvana.

Full body Tantra Massage Session – Donation to the Goddess

1.5hrs minimum session €150.00 a beautiful pampering experience.

2hrs €190.00

2.5 hrs €230.00

3 hrs €270.00

Call 087 343 5081

I’m a trained Tantra Goddess/Educator and Holistic masseuse.

Please continue reading for further details of the massage and other rituals.

Tantra for Couples.

If you would like to discover true intimacy with your partner then I can guide you as a couple to new heights of ecstasy and a blissful union of the mind body and soul.  During this session you as a couple will build a a unique bond using tantra techniques.

Tantra for Women.

If you would like to add a new dimension to your lovemaking and learn the tantra techniques to give the beautiful gift of bliss to your partner and build a unique bond.

 The Sacred Ritual of  receiving pleasure and promotion of self worth.

The Sanskrit word for the male sexual organ is Lingam and is loosely translated as “Wand of Light.” In Tantra or Sacred Sexuality, the Lingam is respectfully viewed and honored, as a “Wand of Light” that channels creative energy and pleasure.

Men need to learn to relax and receive. Traditional sexual conditioning has the man in a doing and goal oriented mode. The Lingam Massage allows you to experience your softer, more receptive side and experience pleasure from a non-traditional perspective.

The Massage including Lingam Massage.

You as the receiver lie on your back with pillows under your head so you can look up at your Goddess/giver. Before contact with your body we’ll begin with deep, relaxed breathing. We’ll begin with an Indian Head massage to soothe and calm within the tranquil environment. Then I’ll gently touch  your legs, abdomen, thighs, chest, nipples, etc., as you the receiver relaxes and sinks deeper into relaxation. Then sensual materials such as silk and velvet will gently glide across your skin to awaken long forgotten sensuality. I’ll massage and caress every inch of your body with aromatherapy oils.

Later I’ll pour a small quantity of oil on the shaft of the Lingam and testicles.I’ll begin by gently massaging the testicles, taking care to not cause pain in this sensitive area and massage the scrotum gently, causing it to relax.  I’ll massage the area above the Lingam, on the pubic bone, the perineum and the area between the testicles and anus.  I’ll take time when massaging the shaft of the Lingam and  vary the speed and pressure using no friction. This will engage your senses which may over the years have become jaded by vigorous friction caused by rushed love making or masturbation, slowing everything down enables you to feel the beautiful sensations more intensely.

In Tantra there are many nerve endings on the Lingam that correspond to other parts of the body. It is believed that many ailments may be cured by a good Lingam massage. The Lingam may or may not go soft as I perform this technique. Do not worry if it doesn’t get hard again. You will probably find that it will get hard, then go soft, get hard again, etc., which is a highly desirable Tantric experience, like riding a wave, bobbing up and down. Hardness and softness are two ends of the pleasure spectrum.

Depending on the length of the session you choose we’ll have time to practice the edging technique, coming close to ejaculation, and then backing off. It is important to remember that the goal is not orgasm in and of itself. Men can learn the art of ejaculatory mastery and awareness by coming close to ejaculation and then backing off on the stimulation. Deep breathing is key here and will soften the urge to ejaculate. Eventually ejaculatory mastery will allow you to make love as long as you want and you can become multi-orgasmic without losing a drop of semen. Orgasm and ejaculation are two different responses that you can learn to separate. The result is a very expanded sex life. Your Goddess will ensure a  place of trust and intimacy is created.

The Sacred Spot Massage

Strong emotions and intense pleasure may rise to the surface during the Sacred Spot massage.

The Bath Ceremony

Imagine yourself being disrobed within the soft glow of scented candlelight; guided into a scented bath or shower, relaxing  into a  place where your Goddess will soothe and lavish the most careful attention upon every inch of your aching body. 

Using  aromatherapy to awaken your senses, your body will be massaged and relaxed. Soft hands and adept fingers will move about and caress every minute part of your body.

The hot water will melt away your stress and relieve your anxiety. In time you will begin to think only of the sacred space you and your Goddess will soon be sharing. You will begin to feel reborn…as  your newly  invigorated body is gently dried, knowing that you are only beginning your Tantric journey through to ecstasy.

Please visit my website http://www.artoftranscendence-tantra.com and call 0873435081


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